Fear Of Failure

It is soooo easy for us to doubt ourselves especially when others might doubt us. But I want to encourage you to throw caution to the wind and forget what your ego is telling you - that you're not good enough, that you'll look ridiculous if you fail or get rejected. 'Cause, boo, that ain't you.

First of all, you ARE good enough. We all have special talents and skills that no one else on earth can claim. Why? Because we are all as unique as our DNA. Sure there might be other people who have your talents, but no one can exercise them the way you can...I pinkie promise. It's important to remember that. You were created to make your own special mark on this world, and you can't do that if you're afraid to take a chance. You can't live up to your infinite potential that way.

Next, I know what you're thinking. What if you fail or get rejected, you'll look ridiculous or as I like to say "cray." Not so much, and here's why. You can't ever get to where you want to go if you don't try. So there is no getting around that. You just have to step out of your comfort zone and get your 'lil patooty moving. Now failure is an interesting thing. Do you know the thousands of times mega successful people failed before they made it? Oh, let us count the ways, bae.

Thomas Edison was told he was "too stupid to learn anything." He was fired from his first two jobs for being "non-productive." And he made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. But for all the falling down he did, he fell toward success when he actually did invent the light bulb. Here's to dreaming. 

Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor who told him he "lacked imagination and had no good ideas." Not only was his proposed park of Disneyland rejected by the city of Anaheim due to fears it would draw an undesirable crowd, but he went bankrupt several times before he built the world famous park. Whoa!

After Harrison Ford's first performance as a hotel bellhop in Dead Heat on a Merry-Go-Round, he was compared to Tony Curtis who had a similarly small part in a movie where he delivered groceries. The studio VP told Ford, "we took one look at him and knew he was a movie star." Then he dismissed Ford by saying "you ain't got it kid, you ain't got it...now get out of here." Of course, as you know, Ford has gone on to have an insanely illustrious career.

J.K. Rowling's book about a boy wizard, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone, was rejected by 12 publishers before a small London house picked it up. It then went on to become a worldwide phenomenon. Excusez-moi while I pick myself off the ground laughing from this amazing comeback.

These types of stories of people we revere are endless. It's just the only time we've known them was after the many years of struggles and challenges. We didn't see all the ugly that came before the pretty. They didn't just start at the top, and neither will you. Got it, boo boo?

What was so different about them than other people who fail and give up? Their attitude. They persevered despite the most difficult times with mottos of "somebody stop me!" and obviously no one could. Few are willing to do that which is why few can claim the status of mega success.

So you really have to ask yourself how bad do you want this, beauty? If the answer is not all that much, then pursue something else that won't take as much hard work or effort. But if you really want it, you've got to dig in, mess up your manicure, go after it with abandon, and give it everything you've got. Because that's the only way you will ever see success.

Sure, there are the lucky few that don't struggle and just luckily fall into a phenomenal career, but that is an anomaly and not the norm. Don't rely on that type of thinking that involves shortcuts. It won't serve you well. If you're like most of us, expect to work hard and reap amazing rewards later. In the end, you will be glad that you've had to take the more challenging path. You know why, girlfriend? Because you will know you did it, and you did it all on your own - without any luck. It was all you, baby!

Like everyone else, there are big things I tried that I failed at, yet I don't care. And neither should you. My motto is "who cares?" No one does. You're likely the only one who would. Everyone else is too busy to notice, and even if they do, who cares!!

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